Musing

It is but interesting to note that awareness about a lot of things might also be very dangerous. Too much knowledge , I believe creates suspicions. Sometimes it is so bad that everything you see, you might see through with the same angle.
I am today referring to the sexual abuse. We see articles daily, reports on people using others for their pervert satisfactions. Till you see or read without connecting the same with your life, your people or the way your life is, it gets away. But, does it. There was this extensive article about this in THE HINDU supplement of 4th July -- the NXG. How do you rate this. This article will disturb every common man who is natural in his approach, leading a normal life with great amount of spirituality and believe that god will take care.
Can this happen. but it is happening. There are a few instances I am quoting out of the article. A girl who is now more than 16 years old, hates mangoes and shows such great aversion because, her grandfather , in her younger days used to rape her and he used to smell of mangoes.
A child who was learning swimming could not cope and the teacher gave her the privilege of teaching her after the classes and in private. He abused her by putting her finger inside her private parts and playing with her.
Does this seem scandalous.Yes it is. and it creates fear. How are our children going to cope. If this or anything of a lesser dimension too happens to them will they share it with us. This depends only on the parents. The comfort they get out of talking to us , be it the mother or the father, with the same intensity and importance.
There was this another instance where the girl who reported to her mother that her cousin was abusing her, was shocked to hear the words " as long as you do not get pregnant. ".Now where will the girl go, or what will she do.
Today, I am afraid. After reading this article my wife has been terrified. This has allowed us to churn our thinking hats. Surprisingly my wife thought it fit to talk to my child( he is 3 years old ) and he was telling her that the teachers in his class get angry and scold them.He explained the process of their handling the potty, if needed, and he clearly told my wife that he does not like being touched on his private part, and he mentioned that a teacher tried to hit him on his private part, gently. But he shouted at her and later told the teacher sorry. We are in the process of finding out how ot handle this. We beleive that the child will tell only what happens.

We are very upset hearing this, but we decided that we neecd to assess the impact of this instance. This is an add on as both my wife and I have been feeling that this time the pre KG class did not excite the child and there is no life. The last term was very lively and the child used to look forward going to school.We are facing similar reactions from other parents. We will find out more before we decide.

But is it not appaling. That today the teacher does not see a child in a child. Till date I see the children in very old adults and that is what excites us and makes our life interesting.

The only solution for me is : believe your child. Allow them to be open to you on any subject. I think sex education should start in the house. Both the mother and father have to discuss this " private " issue openly with their children. If this is done , perversion will not set in and perhaps the sex itself will be an open subject and this will reduce child abuse. For them to feel comfortable to talk about all issues, we must create an atmosphere of comfort, for all of us to feel comfortable with each other.

It is better for us to change, if required, to help the children have a better life. We always need to be ourselves. We need not put up an act or be different with children. Only if you are what you are, it is easy. There will be no need to do something which is not going to be spontaneous.

It is completely alright if you can tell your child that you were wrong about something. As I had mentioned earlier " The child is the father of the Man. ".